Finding your tribe

-sometimes you have to go back before you can move ahead-

Photo by Anita Jankovic on Unsplash

It seems there is always a silent battle going on within ourselves and as long as that battle continues we will never be able to live a gratifying and fulfilling life.

When we feel that parts of us are unworthy, or less than, we self-sabotage and keep ourselves stuck. We deny ourselves the best life has to offer. How did we ever get to feeling and thinking this way?

Somewhere along the line we were told or it was implied that we weren’t “good enough.” That we had shortcomings. That other people were more deserving than we were. And it was either said to us over and over again, or once we heard it we said it to ourselves over and over again to the point that we believed it.

But how can we change this?

We can start by going back. We need to go back and deconstruct the negative thought pattern that seeped into our subconscious so that we can quit believing these untruths.

This takes work. You can’t just tell yourself, “I’m perfect as is” and truly believe it. You have to hear it over and over until you really get it. Just like we’ve told ourselves the negatives all these years.

One of the most important and life-changing things we can do is to surround ourselves with positive, inspirational, and uplifting people, people who believe in us.

Rid yourself of any negative, toxic, energy vampires that you might currently have in your life. Not so easy you say? Maybe they are family or co-workers? Well then just start by bringing in more positive people into your circle. Eventually their energy will crowd out the others.

If you don’t have those kinds of wonderful people in your life, find the support you need — even if only on FACEBOOK — yes, I can’t believe I said that. But if you follow people like, Begin with Yes, The Purpose Fairy, and Wabi Sabi Women :) you will find your tribe, you will find support!

I was up in Portland visiting my daughter and started talking with a woman who had moved there 4 years ago from California. As I looked out the window at the gray, rainy day, I asked her if she liked it there. “Love it,” she answered. I asked her what she loved about Portland — and she thought about it for a minute and then said, “I found my tribe” — the people she needed to surround her and support her, and truly make her feel loved and valuable. We all need a support team.